What someone else thinks of me, is none of my business….

I heard this saying very early in my recovery walk. What someone else thinks of me, is none of my business. Clearly it stuck with me. And bubbled back up to the surface recently.

In the beginning, this saying was comforting because I felt judged. I felt like people looked at me and said I can’t believe what she put her family through. But that wasn’t really true in most cases.

Most of the time it was me, making it up. Knowing all I’ve done and the shame it burdened me with. I felt that shame and figured people could see it. Like it was written across my forehead.

But it wasn’t, it was written across the slate of my soul.

But what I found in recovery rooms was grace not judgment. And what I found each time a shared a little bit more of myself was genuine care not disgust. And what I discovered with my sponsor was after knowing all I shared with her, she loved me anyway.

Now I won’t lie, there was that other end of most….which is just a few. They were judgmental. They knew parts of the story and said I was a terrible person. And one even wrote me a letter which included, wouldn’t your parents be disappointed. That right there is guilt and shame. And no one is going guilt and shame me into being someone who I am not. This type of reaction is unwanted, unnecessary, unkind and unhealthy.

I’ve been reminded this week that what someone else thinks of me is none of my business. And all I need to do is keep my focus on God and my deeper understanding of codependency and continue to grow into the person God made me to be.

I am exactly where I was meant to be. Today, in this moment. Mistakes and all. Flaws and all.

So here’s a little something about me. I march to my own drum, always have. Don’t mind marching alone but prefer with a drum line! I think snap chat is fun and silly. And you never know what color my hair might be next time I see you. So here is a few of my favorite snap chat pics

Because Of the work Ive done and continue to do, in the 12 steps God has been rewriting what’s on my soul.,

I’m just going to keep being me.

My journey to serenity continues…

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9 Comments

  1. You do you, girl. People will judge and hate to make themselves feel better about themselves. You are a beautiful person, inside and out. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done, it’s what you’re doing now. God bless.

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  2. Tough lesson to learn but very freeing. Eventually I hope to not care at all what others think. It’s none of my business and I have no control over their thoughts or feelings. I want to join your drum line! Rock on sista’!

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  3. “What someone else thinks of me, is none of my business.” I LOVE this! And all of your post really. I have never heard this before in my recovery journey, but would love to borrow this gem and share it with my recovery support group.

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      1. And that is why God brings us others to journey with. I have always found your writing and healing process to be full of wisdom and inspiration. I have missed your silence, but trust you were exactly where God wanted you to be. Blessings.

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